5 years in business, then how 2 ‘knocks at the door’ changed everything for me, my family and my business
Let me explain the “knocks at the door” I am referring to, and they have seemed to appear anytime I am away. By these knocks I mean people coming to me to enquire about opportunities for a ‘job’.
The first was as I was in Gallipoli waiting to leave for the dawn service, where I was asked to have a discussion about an opportunity in a developing country north of Australia as a General Manager, bringing a new brand to the market. I did have the chat, as I have a strong belief in looking at all opportunities that come up, and you can always decline. This went well, and then nothing happened so I moved on….
Fast forward to my recent family holiday in the UK in July. The company got back in touch with me and wanted to chat again and bring me over there to meet the team and see the place. I did this and the opportunity was a good one to look at and think about.
Upon my return home from this trip, I was phoned out of the blue by a business owner I knew from my past life, asking about an opportunity for a Chief Operating Officer with his business and brand, in what can be described as an often ‘contentious’ Middle Eastern country. I know the place having travelled there many times, but as luck of the timing had it, I was willing to have a look at the opportunity, where on other times he has approached me, I simply have laughed it off. In order for any next step to occur, I needed to take my wife to have a look, so this was quickly arranged and we had a recent whirlwind tour to this country for her to see if she could potentially live there for a period of time. Following this trip, while not seeing the place as a tourist destination, she didn’t dislike it and thought it may be an opportunity for the family to consider.
So now I had two good opportunities from the ‘opening of the door’, but my dilemma was I also had a solid base here- a business that gives a good lifestyle- while not always the best of incomes over the year (but this is the process of growing a business), good business contacts, good networks and groups etc., so this was going to be a tough call. One could say if I simply ignored these “knocks” there would be no discussion, and maybe that is true, but to get 2 amazing knocks is just bizarre, bizarre in the brands they are with, bizarre in the locations they are offering, and bizarre that they both came at the same time when I wasn’t looking…so what to do?
American boxer Leon Spinks said, “opportunity knocks only once, you never know if you’ll get another opportunity” and this is true and maybe this is a sign!
In order to process this and either consider one, both or none some others had to be engaged – my family.
One country was simply deemed not suitable for them to live in, so this would be a case of me flying in and flying out for a weekend every month or so. Not ideal but an option.
The other country would see us clearly being a stand out minority, in a sometimes-dangerous place, but the family potentially could all relocate and become citizens of a new country and have a safe and stable existence, but this would clearly disrupt schools, friends, sports etc., as well as my wife’s employment and be all based on visas and other processing challenges.
Both options and scenarios, including the ‘walk away’ option were put to the kids and they saw the option of moving to the Middle East as a clear winner and one which would provide opportunity for a ‘cultural experience’ as they said, which shocked me. They knew they that while they would miss people and things in Australia, they would get a good experience, and be closer to other places to allow more travel around Europe and the region etc. It was a very defining and proud moment as a parent I must add, given the mature way the kids looked at this (and at 15 and 12 this was impressive).
So now it came down to us to decide and see is this worth it, or do I reject both “knocks” and keep on coaching?
So back to the 5 year’s in this business from the start of the post.
The last 5 years has gone quickly, I left a good job to do this, and have I earned the same money I would have, had I been working? No. But I have had the opportunity to spend lost time with the kids, which I missed when they were younger due to international travel with work, so the cost of taking them to school, going to their sports, being involved with their lives etc. cannot be measured in dollar terms.
I’ve worked with some awesome businesses in not only Canberra, but other states around the country, developed online training and programs, learnt a lot about technology and tools to use in business, built dynamic social networks on various platforms including an 800 strong LinkedIn Business group, ran charity lunches where nearly $5000 has been raised for local charities, formed networking breakfasts, met and made new friends I would otherwise not have met. Many positives, which, like my children, if I were to take one of these options I would need to have a Plan B for….
I had the feeling of ‘what will people say’ if I decided on one of these? Will they think I have failed, I am running away, or it was all too hard? The answer I knew of course was “no” to these, but there are always doubters and I found the perfect answer to this concern.
“there will be haters, there will be doubters, there will be non-believers,
and then there will be you, proving them wrong”
Whatever I did it is to be my decision, and my family’s decision and needs to be best for all of us. This changed the approach of thinking about it.
- My business could be ceased, parked, and some things can be automated.
- After meeting the school Principal, the change wouldn’t destroy the kids educate, probably ‘enhance it’ as I was told.
- My wife can take a year off and re-charge her batteries from a highly stressful position.
- I can manage current clients to move to other people, or help remotely as a short-term solution.
- My online groups can be given new administrators.
- My networking events can either be ran by others, or parked.
There were no real barriers, apart from my mindset!
Oh yes, there will be the response of, “You’re going where?” “Why?”, “Don’t you know how dangerous this is?” etc.….
And I guarantee anyone who says this, has probably NEVER stepped foot there, or anywhere near there, so of course I will value your highly educated opinions…not…I have been there, stayed there, worked there…and guess what, like the majority of ‘bad’ places, the people are amazing, hospitable, friendly, and would do anything for you. We have our bad minorities too!
So after all of the thinking, dwelling, stressing, what if’ing, and why not’ing a decision had been made!
So, come January 3rd 2016, I will move to Lahore in Pakistan! I will become an Aussie in Lahore. My family will follow some time after this when all formalities are sorted out for them, but will visit when they can in the meantime.
Now to work out just what I need to do to park, and progress business matters I have in place, and start the process of changing, cancelling, advising authorities etc of my plans to again leave these shores of Australia and become a resident elsewhere, and start a new chapter.
This website will follow me and my families journey as I move, live and work in Pakistan, and truly become an Aussie in Lahore from 2016.